Please Let Me Mourn

Please let me mourn.

I’ve never lost a child before and I don’t understand all these emotions I’m feeling. Will you try to understand and help me?

Please let me mourn.

I may act and appear together but I am not. Oftentimes it hurts so much I can hardly bear it.

Please let me mourn.

Don’t expect too much from me. I will try to help you know what I can and can not handle. Sometimes I am not always sure.

Please let me mourn.

Let me talk about my child. I need to talk. It’s part of healing. Don’t pretend nothing has happened. It hurts terribly when you do. I love my child very much and my memories are all I have now. They are very precious to me.

Please let me mourn.

Sometimes I cry and act differently but it is all part of the grieving. My tears are necessary and needed and should not be held back. It even helps when you cry with me. Please don’t fear my tears.

Please let me mourn.

What I need most is your friendship, your sympathy, your prayers, your support and your understanding love. I am not the same person I was before my child died and I never will be. Hopefully we can all grow from this shared tragedy.

Please let me mourn.

God gives me strength to face each day and the hope that I will survive with His help and yours. Time will heal some of the pain but there will always be an empty place in my heart.

Please let me mourn…

…and thank you for helping me through the most difficult time of my life.

Lonnie Forland TCF-Northwood, IA