Maurice George Whale Reads A Poem

♥ Maurice G. Whale ♥ 10-25-1930 - 12-25-2011 ♥

♥ On this Most Blessed Christmas Day,

May the Good Lord be with the

Whale Family

during this time of grief...

This prayer that I ask all of you to pray is for:

Greg's Uncle George who died this morning,

surrounded by his close family,

sharing their love, their faith, their honor & respect...

Children:

Matthew & Janeen Whale;

Carole & Galen Marcille;

Diane & Peter Hackett;

Jack & Jennifer Whale;

Robert Whale;

All the Grandchildren & Great Grandchildren;

Brothers; Sister-in-laws;

Nieces; Nephews;

& All his Friends he made along the way... 

♥ You are all in our thoughts & prayers... ♥

God, Your word says, 'You are a very present help in times of trouble...'

The Whale Family needs Your help right now,

for this is a time of trouble for them.

Please let Your Presence become very real to them.

♥ I ask that you would lift the heaviness of their heart,

and that You would bear their burden of sorrow

and begin to exchange it for peace and hope.

Father, shower them with unexpected tokens of Your love,

so they would know how much You really do care.

♥ God, we do not understand suffering,

but we are grateful that You have promised

 to be with us in the midst of it.

Let Your words be a comfort to my friends in this time of tears.

'Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,

I will fear no evil, for you are with me.' In Jesus mighty name.

♥ Amen ♥

"The LORD is close to the broken-hearted

and

saves those who are crushed in spirit."

Psalm 34:18

Maurice George Whale, Oct. 25, 1930 - Dec. 25, 2011

The world was truly Blessed with Uncle George's:

 81 Years  2 months

OR

29,646 Days

OR Approximately

2,561,414,400 Seconds

here on this Earth...

Christmas without...

A FaceBook friend of mine, wrote this...



it is my fifth Christmas without you my son
though there are moments when it is again the first…

the hours of then and now
intertwined

I am in today
finding joy within your brother’s life
and mine is truly lifted

the hour liquefies…
and I am submerged within my sorrow

back where time stands eternally still
and holds the key to half of my essence

it holds me captive for a bit
though it is not something that I fear
for you
are the reason behind its power
and I am your mom

it is my honor
it is my RITE

to long for you
to miss you
all that you are
who you would have continued to be

and to cry
for you…

those who see weakness
simply do not understand

and for this
I am grateful

for those who travel my same journey
they see and also share with me
infinite strength…

you feel within me
the abundance of my strength

my love for you…

time’s powerful grip
will dissolve soon enough
and I will again
live in today

Because I am your mom
I am your brother’s mom

and my love for you both
is stronger
and will live on

longer than time itself…
 
~December 21, 2011~Tammy Brown in loving memory of Larry Brown

The Worst Loss of All...

imagine

I want you to try to imagine the worst thing in the world that your beloved child died... Let me explain to you the reality…try to imagine, if you can, never seeing your child again, never hearing him / her laugh, never hearing the sound of their voice, never smelling the scent you have come to recognize as your child.. Never hearing them say “I love you”…nothing - just silence, emptiness. Now imagine never seeing your child’s smile, never seeing him / her upset or happy, never watching him / her sleep…missing them so much that you are twisted up inside and the pain stays with you 24/7, you smell their pillow, their clothes, you look at  his / her pictures and can only cry - what happened, why!? You have never felt longing like this in your life! Longing to hear his / her voice, to see his / her face again, and to know deep in your soul you cannot fix it. Now imagine every single thing that used to give you joy and pleasure turns into hurt and despair overnight. Not a gradual thing, but going from pleasure to hurt, from happiness to sadness, from peace to no peace, changing overnight. Everything you loved now hurts like hell…

For example: music, I used to love music, it gave me pleasure, I didn’t realize how much music was a part of my life and how it is everywhere, now I cannot listen to it, it sears me like a red hot knife with the pain of losing my child, it cuts me wide open.. like the old song, the day the music died, that’s me, and believe it or not, almost every song reminds me of the void in my life without my child, I am not unique in that pain - if you lost a child you would know. That is just one little example of how your life is affected by the loss of your child. Just ONE example! You feel the loss with every thought, every emotion, and the loss bleeds into every aspect of your life. even with your other children, you still love your other children just as much as always, but as hard as it is, even they hurt you now, because when you see them you feel the LOSS, the loss of the child that died not being with their siblings. It doesn't’ fit, there is a piece missing, your whole life doesn’t fit anymore. Everything that felt right, now feels wrong. And of course there is always the missing, the horrible gut wrenching, out of your control missing…

As good parents we were always able to fix things or make things better for our children... this we cannot fix, cannot make it better. So on top of everything else you are feeling, you also feel helpless...out of control and hopeless…and this is universal, every parent that truly loves their child will feel this. Are you starting to imagine now how it feels? and you are doing this exercise for 10 minutes, imagine, really imagine, feeling this way 24/7 – Day after day, month after month, and no matter what you are doing or who you are talking to, a tape of your child plays over and over in your mind, your baby, a laughing happy little boy / girl, a cute young teen, a wonderful young man or women and it always plays in your head and you do not want to forget even a single second of your beautiful child’s life… but that is a fear you have, that as time passes you will start to forget… so now, please add FEAR to the list of emotions. This is what it really feels like. a part of you has died, don’t just read the words, FEEL them - died, gone forever… a real, beautiful, living part of you has died… and you are still living, left behind to try to pick up the pieces of your shattered life and not having a clue where to even begin. No wonder a high percentage of marriages break up, parents have breakdowns, turn to alcohol, drugs or a destructive way of life. NO WONDER!!!!!

A part of you does not exist anymore and it is scary as hell... that is why they say the loss of a child is like no other loss... you cannot compare it to another loss, with other losses you grieve and you are of course sad, but when your child dies, a part of you ceases to exist, gone just like that, gone with no warning, just gone.

And the life that you knew, the things you always felt, the things in your life that made sense, that you held on to, that makes up who you are - are Gone!!! That is why when parents who have lost children hear “I want the old you back”, “it’s been a year (a month, 6 months-whatever), and don’t you feel better yet?” “You are doing this to yourself, you’re making it harder on yourself”, “grief can become a selfish thing you know”, we can only shake our heads and feel sadness and hopelessness, because there is no way our lives will ever be like it was when our child was alive.

No wonder bereaved parents isolate themselves; we are just trying to hold on. So were you able to imagine for 10 minutes what it must feel like? Even 2 minutes is too long to imagine the unimaginable, to feel the pain, I would not wish it any anyone, but did you get a sense of how Life changing it is?

Imagine you feel this 24/7, not even getting a moments relief from it! Now go on and put on your favorite CD to listen to, enjoy the music... go home and hug your child, listen to them laugh, watch him / her smile, smell the scent that you know is them and please do not tell me how I should feel or that I am holding onto this, or that my friends/family must be tired of watching me go through this, because if you haven’t lost a beloved child of yours, you haven’t got a clue.

Now when you hear these words “the presence of his/her absence is everywhere,” will you finally understand?

Written by a grieving parent – I am not sure of the author, but saw it, and reposted in the hopes that people who love and support grieving parents might begin to understand what our day to day lives are, and the struggles that go into just surviving. I hope anyone who reads this, who has not experience this type of horrific loss will take a few moments and try to imagine – just try – and I bet you are unable to conceive of what we live with because we are not imagining – we are living with a horror - too painful to even imagine. Peace, Chrissy

Who do you think you are?

When you were born, you entered this world with partial amnesia –
these reminders will make your life happier, easier, and more fulfilling.

 1. You are an eternal soul (a Being of Light), who lives primarily in the spirit world. You chose your current lifetime in physical reality aboard Spaceship Earth – as a student enrolled in “The Human Experience” – to achieve spiritual growth in a universe of duality.

 2. You carefully selected your gender, race, color, nationality, culture, religion, talent, education, occupation, economic and social status, health, and other personal characteristics. All your choices will provide lessons you will learn – and lessons you will teach others.

 3. You picked out your physical body – the “Earth suit” you’re wearing – to function in this space-time dimension. One day it will stop working (it will die), and you will continue to exist.

 4. You mutually chose your primary relationships: parents and grandparents; siblings, marital partners, biological and adopted children, and pets (if any); friends and enemies; and many more. Be aware that every person and every experience is your teacher.

 5. You came here to learn how to love (accept) every person unconditionally. To master this ultimate lesson, treat everyone with loving kindness, including yourself.

 6. To assure abundance: be humble – serve others lovingly – express gratitude often – be understanding, compassionate, and forgiving – acquire serenity, courage, and wisdom – nurture others and yourself – laugh freely – always do your best – and celebrate life joyfully.

 7. Learn to tune into, trust, and act upon your intuition. It offers clarity, insight, and practical guidance for all situations, and it will empower you to make your best decisions.

 8. If you can’t recall your purpose (form of service, passion) in life, pray and it will be revealed. Of course you have free will and can choose any lifestyle you’re able to create.

 9. To increase your awareness, meditate daily and listen to the “still small voice within.” This will broaden your spirituality and deepen your relationship with the Source.

 10. You will receive everything you need for your spiritual growth – but not necessarily what you want. Your soul plan and consciousness determine the experiences, people, and things you will attract. Do not judge others – you don’t know what they came here to learn.

 11. Like the leaves on a huge tree, all people are connected to each other and are part of the Source. Do everything you can to relieve suffering. Inspire healing, harmony, and unity.

 12. When your physical body dies (when you graduate), you will bring with you all the love and kindness you have shared, your memories, and the lessons you have learned.

 13. After your transition, you will have a life review. You will relive every thought, feeling, word, and action of your entire lifetime – and experience how they affected everyone else.

 14. Remember: You are a Being of Light (an immortal spirit). You enrolled in “The Human Experience” to learn kindness, compassion, love, forgiveness, gratitude, peace, wisdom, etc. Eventually your physical body will die, and you will return to heaven. There you will have joyous reunions with all your deceased loved ones, who will be looking forward to your arrival.

 15. Love one another. Serve one another. Honor the Source. Life and love are eternal.

 © 2010 by Bill Guggenheim, coauthor of Hello From Heaven!?

Shoes

An eye witness account from New York City, on a cold day in December, some years ago: A little boy, about 10-years-old, was standing before a shoe store on the roadway, barefooted, peering through the window, and shivering with cold.

A lady approached the young boy and said, "My, but you're in such deep thought staring in that window!" -

"I was asking God to give me a pair of shoes." was the boy's reply. The lady took him by the hand, went into the store, and asked the clerk to get half a dozen pairs of socks for the boy. She then asked if he could give her a basin of water and a towel. He quickly brought them to her. She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and, removing her gloves, knelt down, washed his little feet, and dried them with the towel.

By this time, the clerk had returned with the socks. Placing a pair upon the boy's feet, she purchased him a pair of shoes. She tied up the remaining pairs of socks and gave them to him.. She patted him on the head and said, "No doubt, you will be more comfortable now."

As she turned to go, the astonished kid caught her by the hand, and looking up in to her face, with tears in his eyes, asked her:

"Are you God's wife?"